Jun 22, 2021Don’t Ask Me, I Don’t Have the Answers*I used to love giving advice. Now I’m trying to give less of it. — For awhile now people have come to me for advice, be it about relationships, work, family, or whatever they were unsure about or struggling with at that time. “You seem to have your shit together,” is something I’ve heard from others in the past. …Advice4 min read
Jun 14, 2021I’ve Been in Spain for Five Years, Why Do I Still Suck at Spanish?By the way, this is the third time I’m writing this entry. I noticed the first two attempts fell a bit flat at addressing why I wasn’t fluent in Spanish yet. I don’t know if I was making excuses or explaining. I don’t know if it makes a difference. My…Language Learning5 min read
May 25, 2021My Stinky Lunch Story That I Never HadFor years I told the story. Then I talked to my mom and realized I’d made it up. — Dig if you will the picture of a seven-year-old me. A recent immigrant to the United States. Not being able to speak English. On the school bus in the morning. I can’t understand what the students are saying. …Asian American5 min read
May 15, 2021Why Are Men So Boring Compared to Women?and why do so many of us think that unwillingness to change is a good character trait? — I work on a sports interview podcast with Jori Davis, an American professional basketball player overseas and I’m always nervous about booking a male athlete because they tend to be more boring and generic compared to their female counterparts. Maybe it’s because the men live alone and their life often…Gender4 min read
May 12, 2021What Old Spanish Ladies Taught Me About Equalitywhile they cut me in line at the supermarket — The old ladies in Spain had me on superalert mode when I first arrived here. To be fair, it wasn’t just the old ladies. The older men would cut me in line too. It happened at bakeries where I could never figure out if there was a line or not. …Equality3 min read
May 5, 2021The Unexpected ApologiesWhat do we owe those from our past who pop up and drop one on us? — At one point in my life, I saw both of them almost every day. They still exist in some of the best and worst memories of my life. Moments that brought out the best in me and the worst in me. Possibly out of each other. They both DMed on…Personal Essay4 min read
Apr 23, 2021Been Thinking About Minari…and how I feel guilty for not liking it and if I should always be rooting for everyone Asian — I can’t think of a movie I’ve wanted to like as much as I wanted to like “Minari.” My family immigrated to Ithaca, a college town in upstate New York, in 1984. Like the family in the movie, we too are a family of four, with a son and daughter…Minari5 min read
Apr 15, 2021Been Thinking About DMX…and his death, our reaction to it, and my feelings about those things — If you’re a fan of DMX you already know everything about him. By now, you’ve likely read the stream of tributes that have come out since his passing last week. I wasn’t even sure if I should write anything about it. What the hell would I have to add? I’ve…Dmx6 min read
Apr 6, 2021I Found a Pair of AirPods and Learned How Weak I WasI took someone’s AirPods. It was about a month ago. I went with my lady and a couple of folks to celebrate a birthday (not mine) at a restaurant. As I exited the car I looked down and saw the AirPods in the case on the floor of the parking…Morality4 min read
Mar 30, 2021CURIOUS AND MESSYThis is what I hope my newsletter to be First, welcome and thanks. As for this thing? Well, I’ve had some thoughts. But they kept changing. I kept waiting for the perfect idea. What will this be about? What will my first post be about? I’d kind of forgotten that…Newsletter3 min read